Yes, I knew that he was divorced and had two children, but just knowing that he did want kids was to overcome the first hurdle of dating him.
Thank you for all of your clear and concise thoughts over the last few years.
We’ve known each other almost 20 years prior to dating, and the transition to an amorous relationship was easy and natural.
He’s a fantastic and committed single dad who has his 5-year-old son 50% of the time; he and his ex-divorced several years ago.
She has struggled with addiction, thus making co-parenting a bit of a struggle at times. He’s truly wonderful; he’s kind, thoughtful, treats me with so much respect.
However, the first 6 months there were a lot more hurdles to overcome, which led to the relationship breaking down. He has an impressive-sounding job, a summer house by the lake, a nice car in the garage... Yes, you’re dating a divorced dad, and he’s a tricky species indeed. And did we mention an ex-wife who doesn’t love the idea of another woman making her children pancakes?“You have to expect (and accept) that some of his resources are going to be geared toward the children which can mean less money to take you out and treat you,” says Findling.While not exactly a cause for celebration, the fact that he pays child support tells you that he’s responsible and committed—and that’s priceless.This is a big deal if you’re longing for offspring of your own either now or someday.“Finding this out is easy, and you should do so sooner than later,” says Carle, who suggests asking him, “Would you consider having children again?“It was hard, but I kept reminding myself of the pain she’d just been through—and gave things a good amount of time to settle down.” And patience is indeed a very valuable asset for anyone juggling love and kids. Here are five mistakes to avoid when dating a divorced man.1. “That means he may not always be available to you or as spontaneous as a kid-free guy,” says Findling.Though hopefully you’ll get along well enough with his children to be part of their life, most dads and their kids will still want some one-on-one time.