While the first 6 months were great, it seems lately that things are beginning to slide.The sex life has taken a downturn, it feels like they talk past each other at times, her moodiness is irritating him more, and she is complaining about the weekends he sometimes needs to work for his job.But the bigger danger is that it does all click and both are so caught up in the greatness of it all that neither one wants to rock the boat and spoil the magic. That both partners hold back – you don’t bring up that he was late, or that she tends to dominate the dinner conversations even though it bothers you.Physical distance keeps the potential emotional conflict at bay: You bite your tongue and by the time the next weekend rolls around your irritation has receded.Here they are: Stage 1: Oxytocin or bust This is where Tasha is at.At this stage of the relationship, chemistry, both emotional and physical, is in the forefront.
But if you are feeling particularly lonely or desirous to move forward in your life, you may convince yourself that your expectations have been too high, that this relationship is "good enough".
This is the only way of knowing whether or not you are truly compatible.
Stage 2: Unsettled settling As Chris has noticed the landscape has changed. This is not about fault or blame and more about, once again, chemistry – the oxytocin has dropped.
Here is where partners begin to see patterns – that that crazy drunken night and intense argument wasn't a one-time event after all, or that your partner’s wanting to spend 6 days with her family at Christmas is part of a bigger pattern of pulling in relatives anytime she has more than 2 days off from work.
With all this can come the triggering of each’s emotional wounds.